That’s me At my wedding, stressing about something. GAH!
Hey you guuuuuuuuuuuuuys! so you know how one of Bneato Bar’s beliefs is ‘we believe in starting.’ The meat to that is; Break down your task into the smallest, tiniest, teeny bit possible and start with that. Don’t think about the finish line today, just think about your next course of action. Only have one minute? That sounds just perfect. Start with that.
Wellllllllllllll for the past 4+ months, I didn’t take my own advice and the blog and newsletter suffered. It’s no secret. I know exactly why I have stayed away (and since I love a good list, here’s why i’ve been MIA);
- Pop-Up Shop
- Got married 3 weeks after Pop-Up shop
- 2 beloved pets passed away within 2 weeks of each other with my wedding smacked right in between
- Planning honeymoon
- Lots of new clients
- Holiday travel
And whatever you do, don’t for a second think, poor Beth. They were the highest highs and lowest lows (I mean, in the words of Frank Sinatra, “That’s Life.” What I want you to do is LEARN from my mistakes. First mistake, planning two big events within three weeks of one another and expecting things to run smoothly. And it’s not like people didn’t try and warn me. Each conversation I had leading up to the Pop-Up Shop included me talking about the wedding (to which friends, family and clients would look at me like I was CRAZY). Because I was. It was so naive of me to even think I could have pulled them both off without something suffering. Unfortunately, it was Bneato Bar (and not being able to create any new content). There are so many things I would have done differently (like getting married at a Courthouse instead of having a formal wedding). Just that one thing would have taken so much pressure, stress and anxiety off of everything. More realistically, I could have also pushed the Pop-Up Shop to January or February of this year– but no, I was stubborn and had to have it happen this past Fall. Like my mom always said, “there’s no use crying over spilled milk,” but there’s definitely a lesson (or two) in there.
ONE. Do not take on more than you can handle and think that you are going to be able to get it all done without something falling to the wayside.
TWO. Go easy on yourself. Two of my pets passed away and I’m still not over it. It’s okay if you’re not back up to speed within a week of a major life event happening. I mean, hell, I essentially had three major life events happen within three weeks. The house chores might have suffered a little. It’s okay to take it one step at a time and give yourself some room to do whatever you need to get through the ups and downs.
Have you ever tried to plan too much? How’d it go? How’d you manage? Give me the deets!!
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