This past Saturday was like any other Saturday; sorta planned and sorta not. Errands, maybe lunch out, a Genius Bar appointment—you know, the usual. Except this particular Saturday eve was extra special and out of the ordinary (for me at least). I mean, it’s not every day that I have dinner plans with a bonafide TV star and potentially a nightcap with a heartthrob from my youth. But first, I want to get back to my hum-drum Saturday—I know; snooze alert but bare with me. Even though it was super ordinary, it was hectic. Why? Because I was insistent on finding something new to wear to impress the aforementioned fancy folks. I led Adam (the hub) in and out of every store at the Glendale Galleria (not my go-to shopping spot, but it will do in a pinch). Then went to a few stores in Silver Lake and debated going to a spot in Atwater Village—only, we ran out of time: dinner was on the early side at 6 pm and I had to get home to start getting ready. Once I got home I was bummed. I didn’t want to wear anything in my closet; I WANTED SOMETHING NEW, DAMNIT. Something new would make me feel good about myself because hanging around celebrities might produce feelings of insecurity—so it’s best to protect myself ahead of time, riiiight? So dumb, so silly, but oh-so common. And you thought organizing was just about piles of stuff. Nope, it’s about piles of emotions (and that’s why it’s sometimes really hard to declutter).
If we look around our house; at our belongings, more than we’d like to admit, we buy stuff to show off and impress other people #ConspicuousConsumption.
Usually, when I go last-minute shopping to find something new to wear to some event or happening; it usually ends in bad decisions. I will break it down to for you right now:
- Being rushed to find something = disaster. I occasionally luck out but usually not.
- Because I’m desperate, I settle. One month from now, I’ll hate the fabric, the fit or the outfit in general.
- When you’re desperate, you’ll spend any amount of money. And then, when you don’t like the garment in a month, it’s hard to get rid of because you paid so much money for it. #ugh
- Or, you’re on the hunt and you buy something you would never buy because it’s on sale. Rinse and repeat.
Here’s what it would look like in the future to prevent this sort of mishap from happening again.
- Meditate daily. Know that I’m good enough and I don’t need to buy stuff to impress other folks.
- Create an even more streamlined closet (I have daily wear down-pat but eveningwear is a whole different ball-game).
- Every 3-6 months, try on things; make sure they still fit and are on point. Purge what isn’t working and make a planned shopping trip for what I need or want.
As with most things, it’s all about setting daily, weekly and monthly habits and planning the heck out of life (only then do you have some wiggle room which feels so damn freeing).